Most people feel bored, or at least feel a certain kind of sameness in their lives from time to time, but for many, that ‘I feel bored with life’ feeling is par for the course. It’s perpetual, it never seems to go away. It’s living life in the grey zone. Same stuff, different day syndrome (SSDD).
I’ve certainly experienced that in the past. I can think of three extended periods since I was 16 where I craved frequent excitement or just something different. And sometimes getting off my face with my mates seemed the only way to accomplish it. I stopped going down that route when I woke up one day and realised that getting mind-blowingly drunk or taking naughty drugs might be fine in the moment, but it left me even more miserable the following day, or even for an entire week.
It took me a few years to learn to appreciate the joy in small things. I’ve learned that my desire for rebellion and excitement is much better satisfied by doing something I’m passionate about, which matters to me and enables me to live my purpose, than it ever was by doing things which are illegal or being different for the sake of being different.
Does my career still throw up tasks which I’d rather not do because they are rather tedious, even boring or routine? Most certainly? Things to do with detail tend to have that effect on me, which is why proof-reading drives me nuts! (And apologies to all regular readers who spot the typos I have missed).
Do I miss the adrenalin rush that goes with the risk of taking drugs (that’s risk on a number of levels) or shopping beyond my means? Actually, no.
If I really need an adrenalin rush, then I can go zip lining/bungie jumping/horse riding, or just plunge into a rather cold swimming pool. I can do something that takes me way out of my comfort zone like phoning someone who I barely know and asking them to participate in an online conference I’m going to be running in the summer. (Believe me, that one has my adrenalin sky-rocketing!)
What To Do When Your Feel Bored And It’s Affecting Your Life
All those thoughts were prompted by yet another great article from Dr Matt James. Matt has this knack of hitting the spot with his articles, and this one on ‘Same Stuff Different Day’ is no exception. He explains the problem clearly and offers solutions, including
- ho’oponopono (the Hawaiian forgiveness and release technique). I particularly recommend clicking on the link in the article to download his free ho’oponopono tracks. (Hot tip: you need to download both tracks – track 1 is the explanation, track 2 is the guided technique)
- taking action
- maintaining focus.